Frequently Asked Questions
Below are some Frequently Asked Questions that may help to answer some of your questions. If you still have questions that are not answered below, please feel free to contact us by clicking here.
What is the Together Support Group?
- Together is a support group designed specifically for men whose loved one has been diagnosed with breast cancer.
Why should I get involved?
- It is important to share in the process and recovery of your loved one. It gives you a sense of control and helps you understand what they are going through.
- Also, by understanding and having the tools to cope, it makes the entire process much easier.
- Get involved to help yourself; your loved one and other men who need support.
- You can make a difference.
What can I do as a caregiver?
- Understand that you are important and that you also have needs.
- Attend as many of the doctor’s appointments as possible.
- Take notes or record (with permission) what the oncologist is saying
- Ask the oncologist questions about the side effects of the chemotherapy drugs
- Take notes of your loved one’s issues in between office visits. Before the next treatment, you will forget the little things that may be important for the oncologist to adjust chemotherapy doses, anti-nausea drugs, etc.
- Take a little time out for yourself. Remember, you can’t help someone else if you’re too tired or sick.
How will this help my loved one?
- Once you both hear the words CANCER, you’ll miss everything else that the doctor says to you both. The first experience is very surreal and the bond forms at that moment.
- After several chemotherapy treatments usually your loved one’s strength is diminished. It is important to pass along information to the oncologist that they may have forgotten. You become her eyes and ears.
- You will be able to notice changes or problems that she may miss.
- As you experience this together, it will bring you closer to one another. Letting her go through this alone is not good for either of you.
- Your relationship should only become more solid from the cohesiveness to beat this together.
How am I supposed to know what to do?
- Let your loved one know that you want to be a part of her recovery.
- You will have to gauge what you do. She will probably want to do as much as possible so let her be herself. Recognize when she needs your help.
- If you don’t want to be involved with Partners, please find a good support group in your area that is positive and informative.
Why am I feeling this way?
- Because you are no different than anyone else.
- There is nothing you are experiencing or feeling that another man hasn’t already gone through.
- You are normal and these are feeling that anyone would have whose loved one has been diagnosed with breast cancer.